In order to begin moving toward a life you really "love" you need to truly assess and nurture each of these three areas.
5 Key Ingredients To Create the Life of Your Dreams!
Do you ever find yourself wishing your life
was different than it is? Do you wish you could be handed instructions for
creating and living a life that you can truly delight in living? If so, this
article is written just for you! Read on to discover the recipe for creating a
life you can truly love!
Take the time to build and fortify your personal foundation.
Your personal foundation is the structural
basis that supports you in living an exceptional life. Just as a house must be
built on a strong foundation to avoid collapsing under stress, so must your
life. A house's foundation is made up of earth, cement and steel. Your personal
foundation is also made up of three primary elements: Body, Mind and Spirit or
What, Who and How.
In order to begin moving toward a life you
really "love" you need to truly assess and nurture each of these
three areas.
What - What are you manifesting (financial
restriction or abundance, stagnation or flowing creativity, frustration or
centered "now-based" living, etc.)? What are the results of your life
up to now? Are these manifestations and results congruent with your core
values, your deepest intentions, and what you want for yourself?
Who - Who are you at your core? Do you
"know" for sure and are you living a life that reflects the Who? Are
you living in integrity with Who you are?
How - How do you do what you do? What drives
you toward your behaviors and determines your actions?
In short:
Who you are + How you live (your intentions
and your actions) = What results you currently experience in your life.
Understanding and balancing these three
elements is foundational in building a life of empowerment, self-actualization
and living a life you love.
Orient your life around your gifts.
Gifts are those talents and abilities that
flow almost effortlessly from us. Gifts are sometimes confused with skills.
While skills can be developed, gifts are something we are born with-they are
what we discover as we try new things and find that some things are as natural
to us as breathing.
When we intentionally make a decision to
create our life and work based on our gifts, we are not only more likely to
succeed, but can also more thoroughly enjoy the journey to creating and
realizing our full potential.
Take inventory of your life to determine
where you are utilizing learned and developed skills as opposed to expressing
and honoring your innate gifts. Are you operating based on what you think you
"ought" to be doing or are you living an authentic life that is rich
and fulfilling.
Even if you are not in a place to pursue a
new career based on your gifts, look for ways to make your gifts known to
others and demonstrate them in as many areas of your life as possible. The more
you and those around you are aware of your gifts, the more those gifts will be
called upon. The more your gifts are called upon, the more naturally you will
fully accept and promote those gifts. The more you express your life through
your innate gifts, the more you will excel. It's a beautifully
self-perpetuating process once you make the decision to begin.
Your gifts are your signature, your unique
paintbrushes--use them to express your greatness and make your mark on the
world!
Invest 10% of your time to maximize the other 90%.
Many people invest 90% of their time running
full steam ahead. They take little or no time for planning intentional actions.
They live on adrenalin and often see themselves as a victim, rather than the
creator, of their life experiences. With this mindset they will spend 90% of
their time putting out fires and only 10% of their time for planning or doing
what they truly "want" to be doing.
However, if you want to be successful and
happy, the key is to invest 10% of your time establishing effective operating
structures so that you can spend 90% of your time being productive, living, and
doing what you love.
This principle can manifest differently for
different people depending on their personality, their line of work, their
family structure, and a host of other factors. However, the concept is the
same. Take a small portion of your time to identify what you want to do (your
goals), map out the action steps needed to accomplish those milestones, and
identify the benefits of completing or reaching them (outcomes/results). By
doing this you not only have a clear map to guide you, but the motivation that
it takes to get you there.
Whether it's work, play relationships, or any
other aspect of your life, being intentional about living a Goal, Action and
Result based life will allow you to spend 10% (or less) of your time strategically
determining where you want to go and what you want to do. This will allow you
to invest the bulk of your time on this planet living proactively. In short,
this means you get to spend your precious minutes, hours days, months and years
living, loving, playing and creating the life you seek and deserve!
You are the master of your life - every day
is one more gift, one more chance to excel in maximizing every moment,
leveraging every opportunity and living your life authentically and fully!
Build a community of support - Upgrade your network if necessary.
One of the most important things you can do
to begin living a life you love is to make sure you are conscious about
surrounding yourself with people who are supportive of you and who are
operating at a similar or higher level to you. In short, create your optimal
community. This means surrounding yourself with people who inspire, challenge,
motivate and champion you. It is imperative that your world is made up of
people who have the capacity to assist you in getting where you want to go and
who truly support you in achieving your utmost dreams.
This may mean you need to "upgrade"
your environment. You, like all organisms, thrive in environments that are best
suited to your make-up. The beauty in being a human organism is that you have
the will and ability to choose your environment. It's just a matter of
recognizing that you have that power and then taking the actions necessary to
create a new, healthier environment where you and those around you can really
thrive.
The wonderful thing about being an adult is
that you may not have been able to choose your childhood experiences or your
family, but you do, now, get the chance to choose your community, your
environment. If you find you are in your optimum community, it's time to
celebrate and tell them how much you appreciate them! If you self-assess and
find you are not in your optimum community - it's time to make changes - it's
time to "upgrade!"
You may choose to graciously, or assertively,
let some people drop out of your life. This will allow you to engage and
attract new people into your life in order to create your best community.
This is not, by any means, a purely
self-serving act. Being surrounded by individuals who align with our values and
who have compatible interests to our own creates a unique community.
This community synergistically empowers its'
members because rather than being in competition, they are a team of equals. In
this team, every person is able to whole-heartedly support and encourage the
other members of that team towards realizing his/her full and utmost potential.
It can be a little scary to consider
upgrading, but it could be the very choice that changes the course of your
destiny. You owe it to yourself to plant yourself in fertile grounds were you
can blossom into the magnificence of you!
"If you do not change direction, you may
end up where you are heading."
Get a Coach.
Most people who are viewed by the world
around them as being successful often credit their success to people in their
life that they consider to be a coach or mentor. In fact, the most successful
people on the planet have their own Personal Coach. The reason for this is
simple.
While, friends, family and colleagues can be
wonderful cheerleaders, supporters, and confidants, they often provide guidance
to you based on their own agenda.
Their agenda is often a well meaning one
(they want you to excel in your current job, they want you to get married and
thus be "happy," they want you to join them in a business venture
that will hopefully benefit both of you, etc.) but the bottom line is: it's
"their" agenda. While their wants for you may sometimes align with
your own life desires and goals; it is difficult, if not impossible, for them
to be completely unbiased in their role with you.
None of us can be truly "unbiased"
in the ways we interact with those closest to us because our lives are so
directly intertwined with one another. That is where a Personal Coach comes in.
The purpose of a Personal Coach is to provide
you a professional who is skilled at masterful inquiry, unbiased listening and
whole-hearted championing. A professional Coach hones in on "you,"
and holds "your agenda". Your Coach expertly assists you in creating
a strong personal foundation that allows you to dream big and achieve those
dreams with no predetermined expectations about what you can or cannot
accomplish.
All truly effective Coaches hold that there
is nothing you cannot achieve if it aligns with your core values and you are
willing to do what it takes to make it happen.
A Coach is your personal trainer in life. A
Coach helps you discover your untapped potential and works with you to develop
every aspect of your personal greatness. With the right Coach you can't help
but succeed and dazzle yourself and those around you. In fact, many people are
motivated and inspired to hire their own Coach when they see the incredible
results coaching brings to friends and colleagues in their network!
It's not surprising that almost all
recognized leaders have a personal coach. Of course, all professional athletes
do, but so do Fortune 500 CEOs, cutting edge business leaders and recognized
role models. Did you know that Oprah Winfrey has a Coach?
It doesn't matter where you are in your
journey toward self-actualization, if you want to excel and live a life you
truly love living, you will want to seriously consider hiring your own Personal
Coach.
"Who exactly seeks out a coach? Winners
who want even more out of life." -- Chicago Tribune
In summary, let's review those 5 stepping
stones toward creating a life you loveā¦
1. Take
the time to build and fortify your personal foundation.
2. Orient
your life around your gifts.
3. Invest
10% of your time to maximize the other 90%.
4. Build
a community of support - Upgrade your network if necessary.
5. Get
a Coach
These are tried and true strategies that
work. So apply them at your own risk - you will, I repeat, you WILL experience
incredible results that promise to alter your life for the better!
Here's to you accessing your greatest
potential and creating a life you LOVE!