“It was about 9:30 p.m. one Friday night when I stopped by the office,” said the boss.
A
slight creaking sound could be heard as the room sat silent, waiting for the
door to open. No one knew what to expect. Would lives be changed forever?
Anxiety amongst the group continued to grow.
We’ve
all found ourselves in this circumstance at some point in our life. As children
a teacher would enter the classroom. At work, the boss calls an impromptu
all-hands-on-deck meeting. And, the worst of these situations is sitting in a
hospital waiting room—waiting for a doctor to bust through the swinging doors
with a status update of a loved one.
In
this story, the group was waiting for their boss. She entered. She slowly
walked to the front of the room, took a deep breath, and said, “I want to tell
you all a story.”
Did
lives change that day? Were people laid off? Were people given bonuses? Was
someone on the team recognized? All are possible. We don’t know the answer. But
what we do know is the group’s brain chemistry changed as the boss told a
story—a neurochemical called oxytocin was released.
Some
of you might be thinking, “Why do I care?” And that’s a valid question. But, if
you’re a leader you should care. If you want to influence people, you should
care. And if you want to engage people in cooperative behaviors, you definitely
should care—because scientists are revealing the truth about what happens to
people when stories are told. “A decade ago, my lab discovered that a neurochemical
called oxytocin is a key ‘it’s safe to approach others’ signal in the brain,”
wrote Paul J. Zak, founding Director of the Center for Neuroeconomics
Studies and Professor of Economics, Psychology and Management at Claremont
Graduate University. “Oxytocin is produced when we are trusted or shown a
kindness, and it motivates cooperation with others.”
Everything
Zak mentions is intriguing. However, what we found most intriguing is the
connection between great storytelling, brain chemicals, and how they play
together to motivate people to help others. “By taking blood draws before and
after the narrative (the story that was told), we found
that character-driven stories do consistently cause oxytocin synthesis,”
Zak added. “Further, the amount of oxytocin released by the brain predicted how
much people were willing to help others.”
Basically,
this means that the better stories we tell, the more likely people are to
engage with our cause, the more likely they are to empathize with the
characters in the story, and the more likely they’ll be to contribute their
effort.
The question then becomes:
if great storytelling can release brain chemicals that motivate people to help,
how do we learn to tell stories that inspire greatness?
1. Make it real.
Although many of us grew up hearing fables like The Tortoise and the Hare, real
life stories (yes, those that actually happened) are more likely to resonate
with people and motivate them to change their behavior. Much like a relative
getting diagnosed with heart disease is more likely to make people stop
negative lifestyle habits, stories of real living people are more likely to
inspire positive behaviors—because those stories reveal true possibility.
Consider this: You’re more likely to believe that it’s easy to become a pop
star if you’ve known someone who has become a celebrity. So tell stories about
real people who accomplished real successes.
2. Reveal the tension. A
great Hollywood blockbuster always has a point in the story where failure or
heart break seemed inevitable. The tension in stories resonates with us because
all of us feel different types of stresses and fears in our own lives. So when
you tell a story, focus on the hurdle that existed for your character to
overcome. Build the tension by sharing the anxiety the situation may have
created. Playwright Gustav Freytag built a model based on the tension presented
in William Shakespeare’s work called Freytag’s Pyramid. Look it up here
and follow it during your next story.
3. Spotlight the resolution. The
resolution of your story is the reason you’re sharing the story. You want your
audience to reach the point where they understand that the awkward guy can be
loved by the popular girl, or that the underdog can win the battle because of
his cunning strategy. At work, the resolution to a great story might be landing
the big client even though your competition had better services or lower
prices. It might be completing the impossible project even though it seemed
like any problem that could arise, did arise. For a great story, focus on the
big losses to expose negative behaviors that created a losing situation, and
focus on the big wins to expose the positive behaviors that allowed the person
to achieve their goal.
4. Make it relatable. If
you’re telling a story of Michael Phelps winning all those medals, or Oprah
becoming a media icon, or Stephen King selling millions of books, it’s
important to make those stories relatable to you audience. Make sure you
spotlight to your audience that you don’t expect them to win the most medals at
the Games, or become a household name, or create financial gains that are out
of this world. Make sure you explain that you’re simply telling the story to
inspire them to become the best version of themselves—and it’s the passion, tenacity,
and hard work that you want them to understand.
5. If applicable, make it a
moment of recognition. Great stories have the
ability to unlock brain chemicals that motivate people. But great stories about
a member or members of an audience have even a greater impact. These are
called recognition moments—when your story of intrigue, of tension, of
overcoming a hurdle can have the greatest impact on motivating, inspiring, and
engaging people in a cause. Try it the next time you tell a story. The results
will amaze you.
“It
was about 9:30 p.m. one Friday night when I stopped by the office,” said the
boss. “Most of us had checked out for the weekend. And when I walked in the
building—simply because I had forgotten my coat—I noticed all the lights were
off except one. Over in the corner I saw Cassie—working hard, and oblivious to
the world. I watched Cassie closely over the next few weeks. She was asking for
opinions and feedback. She was trying new and different approaches. And all
that effort paid off. Congratulations to Cassie for great work. Her project has
moved this company in a new direction and I want all of you to know how proud
and honored I am to have Cassie on our team.”